How can I be more spiritual in my daily life?

Paularyo: Good morning my dear.  It is so nice to be with you.

Zepher: Good morning.

Paularyo: Give us a moment to tap into your energy field….We feel such sweetness from you.  Along with the sweetness we find a lot of frustration.  You feel like your sweetness should be enough.  With your sweetness it should be enough to help you be more spiritual.  So your frustration is – “What am I missing here?”  Yes?

Zepher: You hit it on the nail.  I didn't realize this til you brought it up.  I think I have doubt.

Paularyo: Tell us more about the doubt.  We feel that it has been with you since childhood.  It is the doubt in your Self, in YOU.

Zepher: I was getting frustrated and doubted myself.  Why didn’t I “Allow it to be easy”?

Paularyo: Precisely.  You feel as if there is something wrong with YOU.  As if it is YOUR fault.

Zepher: I do feel that way.

Paularyo: When you blame your Self you go into your head.  Then it is impossible to move forward on your spiritual path. 

Spirit does not expect you to be perfect.  What we want from you is to spend time in your heart.  It is in your heart that you move forward. When you blame your Self, you get stuck on your spiritual path.  When you feel it is your fault…when you feel there must be something wrong with you…when you start doubting your Self - you go into a downward spiral.  This habit of going into a downward spiral has been with you since childhood. 

The way you got out of the downward spiral as a child was by going into your head and figuring out what others wanted from you.  And it worked…temporarily.  When you were a 'good girl' you got praise from others.  So your habit became to look for 'external validation' in order to feel good about your Self. 

It worked for you as a child.  It does not work for you as an adult.  It was correct for you to do this so you could learn through opposites – you validated your Self externally so you could understand it, feel it, and you can now learn to validate your Self from inside. 

When you validate your Self, where does it come from?  The little girl in you believes it should come from your head.  The spiritual being in you knows it comes from your heart. 

Play with us for a moment here.  Validate your Self from your head.  What happens?

Zepher: I get a headache.

Paularyo: Yes, because you make a list, and the list is never long enough.  Now...validate your Self from your heart.  What happens?

Zepher: I’m more in touch with my emotions.

Paularyo: What emotions come up for you in this moment?

Zepher: Overwhelming emotion of "come on, you can do this."   Does this make sense?

Paularyo: Yes, because you are both in your head and your heart.  We want you now to feel your sweetness - only that.

Zepher: It is making me cry.

Paularyo: Keep going. You are validating your Self from your heart.  It is TRUE validation.  Your soul has been longing for this.  Tell us more.

Zepher: It is full of love and life, desire and passion that have been long stifled.

Paularyo: Absolutely.  Tell us more

Zepher: It is reminding me of my Essence.

Paularyo: Tell us of your Essence qualities - what are they?

Zepher: I hear my name, Zepher, being said and it gives me a feeling of sweetness, nonjudgmental and giving, caring, loving.

Paularyo: YES, this is the TRUE you.  Is that enough?  Are you enough?

Zepher: I’m gifted, a jack of all trades, good at whatever I set my mind to.  My frustration stems from not being able to utilize that... not giving my Self permission to utilize that.

Paularyo: Your frustration stems from going into your head to validate your Self, and looking for external validation.  You just did it.  You just went into your head to validate your Self.  To check it out.  To make sure it was right.  Did you not?

Zepher: I see, the feeling was different and I didn't like it.

Paularyo: Correct.  It did not feel good.  That is the key.  That is how you know that you have gone into your head.  FEEL your Essence, your soul, your Ka qualities now.  FEEL them.  BE them.  LOVE them.  What happens when you do that?

Zepher: It gives me hope

Paularyo: Hope is the core of moving forward.  Without hope, you cannot move forward on your spiritual path.  What is it that your heart, your soul, hopes for?

Zepher: My own acceptance of my Self, for who I am.

Paularyo: Can you do that?

Zepher: I hope to utilize my skills. With practice and hope.
 
Paularyo: My dear, we want to caution you here.  To 'utilize your skills' is a head statement.  We want you to say, 'to allow my skills to come forward.'  Can you FEEL the difference??? 

Practicing is also a head concept.   Allowing is a heart concept.

Zepher: I just felt my heart chakra move.

Paularyo: How did that FEEL?

Zepher: Warm.

Paularyo: Comforting?

Zepher: Yes.

Paularyo: Be in that feeling for a moment.  Only that.

Zepher: It is spinning.

Paularyo: Tell us of the feeling

Zepher: It is cleansing itself and resetting itself to absorb love and acceptance.  It feels smooth.

Paularyo: Smooth means - no judgment.   FEEL love and full acceptance.

Zepher: And feels green.

Paularyo:  Green means – healing.  Tell us more.  Tell us your emotional feelings.

Zepher: A little bit of yellow.

Paularyo: Yellow is joy.

Zepher: I picture a sun shining on the heart chakra... it’s spontaneous.

Paularyo: The sun is golden energy.  That is the God energy. My dear, tell us of your emotional feelings.

Zepher: There are cobwebs fading away.  I feel longing, sadness, hope, an overwhelming desire to let the floodgates open…meaning cry to cleanse my Self.

Paularyo: Allow it, my dear.

Zepher: My throat feels choked up.  That chakra is starting to spin.

Paularyo: Yes, you were not allowed to speak of this as a child.  Allow it.

Zepher: Or as an adult.

Paularyo: Your family did not allow it as a child.  You did not allow it as an adult. 

Zepher: I am crying to release it.

Paularyo: Now you have the choice. Please do cry.  Allow a deep cleansing.

Zepher: It hurts.

Paularyo: Where does it hurt?  The little girl in you wants to be comforted, held, and understood. There is a lot of pain in her.  And YOU can heal her.  Only you can heal her.  Comfort her now.

Zepher: My heart and throat hurt.  My neck.

Paularyo: Yes, all that pressure is being released.  Allow it.  Comfort that little girl who became an adult when you were a child.  She did not feel safe to BE or to SPEAK her TRUTH.  As you comfort her, what happens to the pain?

Zepher: The pain becomes love.

Paularyo: You naturally share this love with your children today.  Now share it with the child within.  When your children are in pain, love springs from you instantly and naturally.  Allow it to spring naturally for the little girl in you. 

Zepher: When I saw her, I thought immediately the feeling of love I have with my children and allowed the same to go to her.

Paularyo: Continue to comfort her now.  She has been waiting for you.  The pain has transformed to love.  This is you in your heart.  My dear, tell us her/your Ka qualities, her/your soul qualities.  Say "I am...."

Zepher: I am…sweet, special, unique, gifted, old soul....the ability to touch people through their hearts.  I am all that.

Paularyo: FEEL it now.  BE it now.  Is that enough?

Zepher: I am who I am.

Paularyo: My dear, you cannot 'practice' this - you can simply BE it. And you can allow it to be easy when you allow it to be enough.  Are you enough?

Zepher: Yes.

Paularyo: Now my dear, we want to play with you again.  We want you to compare who you are with someone you deeply admire.  What happens? 

Zepher:  Honestly, when I felt my Self go to my head, I felt a little threatened.  Then I dropped to my heart, remembered my soul qualities and immediately, I felt love towards her and how we compliment each other.

Paularyo: PERFECT!!!!  You have the formula – you drop into your heart, you remember your soul qualities, and you immediately feel love.

You can FEEL the difference - when you go to your head you judge.   When you drop to your heart, you love.  That is the key for you my dear. 

Your head judges you.  Your heart allows you to be you and to KNOW that you are enough.

Zepher: My head is too hard on me.

Paularyo: Absolutely.  It judges.  It compares and makes you feel 'less than.’  What does your heart do?

Zepher: It accepts and loves.

Paularyo: And allows.  Your heart allows it to be easy.  Your head makes it difficult.  You head makes it hard. 

We want to play again.  We want you to visualize moving through your day today with two paths.  See the path on the left as moving through your day in your head.  The path on the right is moving through your day in your heart.  FEEL the difference.  What happens?

Zepher: The path on my left feels draining and no fun.  The one on the right feels relaxing and easy going and happy,

Paularyo: EASY is the key here. You are allowing it to be easy.  You had said at the beginning of our time together today, “Why don’t I allow it to be easy?’  You have your answer, yes? 

Your habit is to be in your head - draining and no fun.  Allow your new habit to be in your heart – relaxing and easy going.  Yes?

Zepher: Yes.

Paularyo: Now image your Self going thru the week in your heart.  How does it feel?

Zepher: I don't feel stressed out and will just take one day at a time.

Paularyo: Please take one moment at a time.  Now go back to a moment when you learned that you did not get a job you wanted. Experience it again - this time in your heart. How do you experience the moment differently?

Zepher: It is their loss and it was not meant to be.

Paularyo: There is no loss here, my dear.  It was meant to be.  You experienced this in order to learn how to respond from your heart. You took that pain and transformed it - in this moment - to peace.  You did it. You learned.  You moved forward on your spiritual path. 

You asked how to be more spiritual in your daily life.  You can drop into your heart, allow it to be relaxing and easy going, and then re-experience moments in your past and heal them in the present moment. 

What other moment from your past would you like to heal right now?

Zepher: I can look back to my former place of employment and say, "I was meant to learn something from this."  Thank the lesson and let go.

Paularyo: And what did you learn?

Zepher: That there will be difficult situations in the future. That I am to be in my heart so I don't let it drag me down.  Look at it as a learning experience and move on.

Paularyo: Are you ready to heal a moment from your childhood?

Zepher: Yes.

Paularyo: Go to a moment of pain. Heal it.  What happens?

Zepher: I felt I got my power back.

I went to two boys who taunted me in 3rd grade... I went up to them and said, "You must be feeling awful about yourSelf. I am sorry if I feel threatening to you because I am smart. You are too.” I hugged them both and wished them well.  When I first thought of them, tears came but in hugging them, I felt relieved, to let them go.

Paularyo: A painful memory loses its power over you when you transform the pain to peace. YOU heal your Self in a moment's time.  How do you FEEL in this moment?

Zepher: More peaceful.

Paularyo: Please do not limit your Self to 'more.’  Tell us you are fully peaceful.  BE fully peace-full in this moment.  Allow it.  Allow it to be easy.  Know that you can do this only a moment at a time.  And allow that to be enough. My dear, spend a moment BEing fully peace-full.

Zepher: OK.

Paularyo: What happens?  How does the little girl in you, little Zepher, feel when you allow it?

Zepher: She feels happy and gave me a beautiful smile.

Paularyo: And how does the adult Zepher feel?

Zepher: She wanted me to forgive the boys.

Paularyo: No need to forgive, my dear.  Simply have compassion for their pain.  You did that.  That is enough. 

What do you forgive them for?   Forgiveness has an underlying judgment in it.  It is as if they were wrong and you were right.  Instead of forgiving them, have compassion for their pain. How does that feel?

Zepher: It feels liberating.

Paularyo: Now, wish them healing.  How does that feel?

Zepher: It feels good.

Paularyo: Go beyond good to great.  Allow it.  You have the habit of limiting your emotions.  Go all the way to great. How does that feel?

Zepher: Giddy.

Paularyo: Like a little girl!  Little Zepher is giddy!  Wonderful! 

Zepher: She is doing cartwheels

Paularyo: Are you ready to heal another moment from your past?  Go to the first moment that comes to you.  Tell us what happens

Zepher: When I found out I had rheumatoid arthritis.  I was upset.

Paularyo: Heal that moment.  What happens?

Zepher: Acceptance.  My body was trying to tell me something back then and I was not listening. I apologize for not listening and thank it for showing me. I am compassionate and accept this, that there is a lesson. My body doesn't have to work so hard anymore.  It feels freeing.

Paularyo: It was good for you to be upset in that moment in the past. You experienced a huge loss.

Holding on to that feeling of loss is not good for you today. Now you can heal that moment and move forward.  There were no mistakes. You needed to feel the pain of the moment.  Now you have healed that pain and you can move forward in peace. Yes?

Zepher: Yes.

Paularyo: My dear, this was an important session for your healing.

You learned that past pain was good in that moment. It was necessary.  No mistakes. Now you can heal those moments of pain, instead of holding on to them.  That frees you to move forward in peace.

You can also project into the future.  You can visualize your Self walking in your heart…responding to your life in your heart…allowing each moment to be filled with peace.  As you walk forward, there will be moments when you go into your head.  It is your habit.  Have compassion for your head, for your habit.  Wish it healing and return to your heart…to your soul…to your Ka…to your little girl…to the REAL you. And move forward in peace from moment to moment. 

Your question was – “How can I become more spiritual?”  And now you have the tools, yes?

Zepher: Yes, thank you.

Paularyo: You have the tools.  You have the gifts.  You have everything that you need.  Yes?

Zepher: Yes.

Paularyo: You can move forward in peace…and ease…and cartwheels…giggling!  Yes?

Zepher: Yes!

Paularyo: My dear, we wish you healing.  We wish you peace.  We wish you ease.  We wish little Zepher giggling cartwheels.  We wish little Zepher acceptance of who she is and to know that she is enough.  She is more than enough. 

We wish adult Zepher the new habit of BEing in your heart.  If your head wants to practice, then practice that - BEing in your heart…going to past pains and healing them.  No forgiveness necessary – simply compassion. And wishing healing to all concerned…including Little Zepher and Adult Zepher. Yes, my dear?

Zepher: Yes.  I feel so much better.   "AHA" moments!  This was exactly what I had longed for - only I didn't know it!.  Thanks for being such a help. 

Paularyo: Blessings to you, my dear. You are sweetness and light.  Remember that.  BE that.  Allow that.  And allow it to be easy.  Blessings, and good day my dear.

Allow your Ego to be Soothed by your Soul. 

My dear,

You have spent your life depending on external validation in order to make sense of your life.  You have used your heart as a gauge for self-worth, instead of as a tool for self-discovery.

You think that self-worth is the target you are trying to reach.  Self-worth is your personal reflection of all you DO in your life.

When we ask, “Who are you?” … we are focusing on your Soul qualities.  Spirit focuses on the part of your heart which houses your Soul.  Enhancing your Soul qualities is you Life Purpose.

You set that aside for more immediate reflections of proof to the worth of your personality – your Ego – your self-esteem.

Let’s, for a moment, set your personality aside.  Without a personality, who are you?  You are your True Self – your Authentic Self – your Soul Self – your Ka.

And that is the part of you that you love.  It is not the part of you who wants to be loved, or to behave in a manner that is not natural for you - to be funny, or be entertaining.

You are ever trying to be what you assume others want you to be, instead of allowing your Self to Be who you truly are. Instead of allowing it to be easy. 

You can remember poignant moments in your life when you felt “less than” because you felt you weren’t smart enough, funny enough, entertaining enough.  So you developed the habit of trying to be something you are not.

Allow your Self to be loving enough, compassionate enough, attentive enough, supportive enough. Allow your Self to Be enough.

Allow your Soul, your Essence, your Ka, to BE enough.  As you allow your Self to BE enough, you allow it to be easy.

Allow it.  Be it.

When you feel driven to DO – this is what you can DO:
BE compassionate to someone.
BE loving to someone.
BE supportive to someone.

Especially BE all of these things to your Self.

When you are driven to receive immediate relief because you’re feeling a lack of self-worth, what can you DO?

BE loving to someone.
BE compassionate to someone.
BE supportive to someone.

Allow your Ego to be soothed by your Soul. 

Feel it. My dear, take a moment and feeeeeeel it. Allow it.

This is internal validation. 

This is a huge lesson for you.  Perhaps the most important life lesson that you will ever face. 

Face it. 
Thank it. 
Allow it. 
DO it. 
BE it. 

And all is well.

Allow it to be easy. 
And it is so.

~ Paularyo

From Emotional Hell to Transformational Ease

Question to Paularyo: I was in Emotional Hell last weekend. I went to an event where all of my "buttons" were pushed. This happens most often at family events. I want to be loving and kind, but instead I implode and I feel like I'm drowning in an emotional whirlpool. Help!

My dear,

Criticism of others is a learned response to emotional pain.

Criticism of Self is a response to Fear of Abandonment.

When you combine the two, you lose your sense of Self. Your forget who you are in your heart/soul, and go into Survival Mode.

Man's Survival Mode is essential in times of immediate danger...when your life is threatened - by force, by nature, by your need for food, water and shelter.

When you enter Survival Mode as a response to perceived emotional danger - fear of abandonment - all of your physical resources are on alert. You depend on your brain to scan the danger and to find a Path of Survival.

Your Emotional Path of Survival was developed during your childhood. You experimented with various paths until you refined your unique Emotional Path of Survival. Over the years it becomes your automatic subconscious response to perceived emotional threats.

Does your Emotional Path of Survival serve you today?

Gift your Self with the time and space to...

• Uncover your subconscious Path of Emotional Survival.
• Discover how it served you, and thank it for supporting you during your formative years.
• Allow your Self - your Heart and Soul - to transform this energy into your Path of Ease. This is your newly created response, a healthy response, a healing response, when you perceive emotional threats of criticism, of emotional abandonment.
• Allow your Self to revisit your Path of Ease periodically to update it. As you continue to evolve during you life, your Path of Ease will also evolve.

Allow it to be easy.

And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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Why is it that we attract into our lives things that we don’t want? 
Why do we shut down our hearts?

My Dear,

What is it that you expect from your life? 

Do you expect that your life will be without challenge?  Do you expect that your life will be as a flat road with no bumps, no boulders, no detours?    If that is what you expect, you will be quite disappointed with this life, my dears.

You learn best through opposites. 

How?

You invite these “unwanted” experiences into your life so that you can learn from them.

You experience these events as the opposite of what you want in your life when you perceive them from your head.

There will be times when you will “shut your heart down” for a length of time so that you can remember what it is like to experience the opposite of your Soul Self - your Ka. 

None of this is a mistake.

When you experience the opposite, instead of judging your Self, we want you to come from compassion and curiosity – “What is it that I'm learning right now?”

In this way the approach to your question is a very positive approach.  It is not a “What’s wrong?  What am I doing wrong?  Why is this happening to me?” approach.

Instead it is with compassion for your Self and with curiosity for the lesson, “Ahhhh, this is my perception of what is happening.  What can I learn from it?  How can I best move forward so I don’t need to repeat this same sort of lesson over and over?”

The mistake that you make is thinking that this shouldn’t be happening to you.  Absolutely it happens in your life.  It happens in everyone’s life. 

When you learn from it, then you don’t have to keep repeating that same block, boulder, or detour over and over and over again. 

When you shut yourself down, when you live in your head instead of your heart, and then return to your heart – this process enhances your compassion for your Self and for people who continually live in their head. 

To live in your heart 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, for the rest of your life would be wonderful – but it isn’t very realistic, is it?  If you could do that you wouldn’t be here learning.

In this moment, we want you to think of something that has been happening in your life recently that has been frustrating to you, or disappointing to you.  What recently has been a boulder to a Path of ease?  

Once you have identified an event or experience, take a deep relaxing breath.

Expand your Bubble, your energy field, to the size of the universe and beyond. Insist that any energies or entities that are in your Bubble which are from other than the highest Source leave immediately.

Invite into your Bubble - your Guides, your Angels, the Masters, Mother Earth, and the Source. Invite in all the energies and entities from the highest Source to bring you the energy and the information that is for the best and highest good of all.

Imagine extending out of your solar plexus chakra is your Life Path. 

Step on the Path and walk up to this boulder, this energy that has been frustrating you in your life. 

Ask this boulder, this energy form, “What have you come to teach me?”

The easiest way to receive your Message from Spirit is to expand your Bubble.  Simply expand your Bubble until the response bubbles up within you.

You may receive words, pictures, or feelings.  Allow whatever it is to bubble up.  What Message do you hear, feel, or see?

Participant 1:  “I got - don’t force it.  When the mind thinks it is supposed to be one way, don’t think that it has to be that one way.”

Participant 2:  “The word came up instantly - compassion.  Don’t look for right or wrong.  Just show compassion.”

Participant 3:  “I got – expansion.  This is meant to be an expansion in my life and my son’s life.  I want to let him expand at his own pace.”

Participant 4:  “I felt the words - love me.  The situation, the people involved, are responding in a way that makes no sense to me.  I am to stay in the energy of loving them instead of resisting their response.”

Participant 5:  “I heard - you are bigger than this.  This means to me that during the trials and negativity coming from situations in my family, I don't have to hold everyone together.  My energy can expand.  I don’t need to get caught up in it and take responsibility for how others are doing.”

Participant 6:  “I heard - Staying in your head is a way of avoiding making an emotional connection to others.  I realize this can keep me from making a human connection with others.  I want to connect heart to heart.”

Participant 7:  “I got - It’s an opportunity to not react.  It’s interesting that I react to some things in a totally different way than others.  I want to replace reacting with observing, with accepting, with open heartedness and detachment.  Then I can choose how to react.”

Participant 8:  “I got – make friends with the obstacle.  I was frantically desperate to find a new job, and it just wasn’t happening.  As I looked at this boulder I realized that I actually have a really good job and I don’t need to change.  I was in such tunnel vision about the change that I wasn’t appreciating what I have.”

My dears, when you go out of you heart and go into your head, you go into circular thinking.  You cannot solve anything from circular thinking. 

Tonight you took an opportunity to return to your heart.  When you see the obstacle from your heart, you have a different perspective, do you not?  This allows you to see that the obstacle was created by your response to a situation. 

The next time you realize that you are in your head spinning, have compassion for your Self. You can even laugh at your Self recognizing that this is who you are when you are in your head spinning. 

Then expand your Bubble and see the perceived obstacle from your heart.  In this way you can find the answer and the lesson more easily and more quickly.

Thank your Guides for giving you your Message. 

Allow it to be easy.

And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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Powerful 15-Second Stress Buster

Allow it to be easy to bring love...joy...peace...healing...and passion for your path...into your life everyday.

You ask us, "How?"

Step 1

Ask your Self - Am I willing to transform my limiting "should"s into the enhancing "Allow"?

These limiting "should"s served you well in your past, but now limit your freedom to
Be all that you can Be.

Ask your Self...

• Am I willing to "Allow"?
• Am I willing to "Allow it to be easy"?
• Am I willing to bring Love, Peace, Joy, Healing, and
  Passion for My Path into my Life?
  

Yes.

What can I DO to create this?

Step 2

• Thank these limiting "should"s for serving you in your past.
  • "Should" implies control and leads to stress.
  • "Allow" implies faith and leads to ease.
• Decide to "Allow."
• Decide to "Allow it to be easy."
• Decide over and over again throughout your day to allow the energy of your limiting and stress-producing "should"s to transform into the expansive and ease-producing "Allow."
  

How?

Step 3

Repeat the mantra...

• Take in a deep breath with "Allow it..."
• Release the breath with "...to be Easy" as you expand your energy bubble and imagine your heart energy floating up over your head. Perceive the world from your heart energy.

Repeat your breathing mantra two more times, continuing to expand your energy bubble and to perceive through your heart energy.

Use this simple 3-breath Tool for Transformation over and over again throughout your day.

In the process your subconscious easily and effortlessly transforms your "should"s into the "Allow."

As best you can, continue to perceive your world through your heart energy above your head and keep your bubble expanded. Notice how you perceive your world differently. Notice how this brings your mind/body/spirit out of stress and into ease.

Allow it.
Allow it to be easy.
Allow your Self to be open to love...peace...joy...healing...and passion for your path.

Decide to...

• Do it - Allow
• Be it - Ease

Allow it to be Easy.

And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Releasing Your Expectations"

Question to Paularyo:
"Paularyo, I feel shut down and stuck. I recently had a misunderstanding with a good friend and it's not resolved. I just don't know what to do. Help please!"
Elaine

Response from Paularyo:

My Dear,

Move beyond this. You are hanging on to the pain. You are in your head, trying to find resolution. Your ego wants to figure it out. Your ego wants perfection from your friend and from your Self.

Do not expect perfection of your Self or your friends or your family or your colleagues. It neither serves you nor them.

Allow your Self to have compassion for you and for them. No expectations of perfection.

NO EXPECTATIONS OF...

• your Self
• your friends
• your family

Only WANT the best and accept what IS.

BE in your heart.*

BE in your soul.

DO the best you can in the moment.

KNOW that others are DOing the best they can.

Allow it to BE

Allow it to be easy.

And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"How to Drop into Your Heart"

My dears,

For you to discover Your Truths, drop into your heart.

How?

We would like for this process to be easy for you. The tools we are about to present are given so that you can allow it to be easy.

Imagine that you are in an energy bubble. Take a moment. Close your eyes. Take a deep relaxing breath and feel a bubble around you. This is your energy field. Allow yourself to imagine this bubble. Allow your childhood imagination to assist you in this process. Allow yourself to imagine the size and the color (or colors) that appear to you. Allow it to be easy, my dear.

With your energy field brought to your conscious level, notice what you feel in your body. Notice how your energy bubble feels to you. This is the energy, my dear, that other people feel when they are in your presence. Once more, please stop and feel your energy field.

We ask you now to expand your bubble. Allow it to be easy. Use your imagination. Expand your bubble to twice its original size. Notice how you feel.

If you have trouble expanding your bubble, you are in fear. Allow the fear. How has this fear served you in the past? Honor the fear . . . then allow the energy of fear to transform into faith. Faith in the process. Faith in you. Faith in spirit. Faith in the universe. Now, allow your bubble to expand.

You will notice that as you expand your bubble, your physical being becomes more peaceful, your mental being becomes more clear, your emotional being becomes more balanced, and your spiritual being becomes more open.

Expand your bubble to twice its present size. Notice an even deeper peace in your physical being, clarity in your mental being, balance in your emotional being, and receptivity in your spiritual being.

Allow your bubble to expand once more to at least twice its size. Allow it to become as large as is comfortable for you. Perhaps as large as the universe. Just be in this energy for a few moments. Notice the effects on your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual being. Allow yourself to be fully peaceful, clear, balanced, and open to spirit.

We ask you to be aware that while you are within your expanded energy bubble, you automatically drop from your head into your heart. Imagine you think from your heart, hear from your heart, and speak from your heart. Allow it to be easy. Be in this present moment.

Be in the present. Be in your heart. It may help, my dear, to visualize yourself in the presence of someone or a pet you dearly love and trust. You’ll automatically be in the energy of love and drop into your heart.

If any fears for your future or pains of your past appear that take you back into your head, notice that your bubble shrinks. Spend a few moments recognizing and allowing the fears and pains. Know that these pains and these fears have served you in some way. They are simply energy. How have these energies served you in the past?

Allow the energy of fear to transform into the energy of faith, and the energy of pain to transform into the energy of peace of the present while expanding your bubble, allowing yourself to drop once more into your heart.

Feel what it is like to be in this present moment, to be in your heart chakra, in your heart center. This, my dear, is the center of your spiritual being. It is where your soul energy resides. It contains the loving and gentle qualities of your soul self, your Ka. It is from this center that you allow your master spirit guides to speak to and through you. Be in your core. Feel your innate soul being.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Allow it to be Easy"

Dear One,

These are Universal Truths.

Speak these words aloud...

I allow it to be easy.

Living from my Soul has a healing domino effect.

I experience compassion for my Self and others...

which leads to accepting my Self and others without criticism or judgment...

which leads to peace flowing through my mind, body, and spirit...

which leads to healing my mind, body, and spirit.

I allow it to be easy.

I allow my Self to be one with Love, Peace, Joy, Healing,
Passion for my Path, my Soul Self, my Spirit Guides,
my Angels, the Masters, Mother Earth, and
the Infinite Source.

I allow my Self to...
See the Truth,
Speak the Truth,
Hold the Truth in my Heart,
Walk the Path of Truth,
Know the Truth of my Emotions, and
Be Based in Truth.

I allow my Self to be in the Present Moment.

I am Free-Spirited.

I am in Faith that Spirit wants and provides the best for me.

I am aware of the Flow of Coincidences in my Life.

I am grateful for all that has happened in my Life.

I am grateful for all that I Am in my Life.

I am grateful for all that I Have in my Life.

I am grateful for all that is to Come into my Life.

I Allow it to be Easy.

And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Is 'Perfection' your goal?"

Dear One,

Your culture is often in awe of perfection, yes?

With perfection as your goal you live your life in competition with your Self.

When 'perfection' is transformed into 'Allow it to be easy' you allow your life to flow. It takes its own best course.

There will be curves in the stream of life, yes. With this transformation, you easily flow over some boulders and swirl around other boulders. Allow your Self to accept the flow, appreciate the movement, and heal the need for perfection.

Will you maintain this new habit 24 hours a day? Probably not. Imagine your life as two steps forward and one step back.

As you step into new territory you are breaking old patterns, old habits. Anything new can be awkward.

You may want to return to your 'comfort zone.' --- a place that is known and comfortable, almost predictable for you. So you take a step back and return to your old patterns.

When you are ready, you step forward again. When the new pattern becomes comfortable, you will step forward once more, coming more and more into your Ka, your soul's Essence.

When you step back, please do not criticize your Self. This is a very human trait --- returning to the comfort zone. Allow it. Have compassion for your Self, and step forward when you are ready. Be patient with your Self. You are doing the best you can.

Allow it to be easy, my dear. And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Healing Your Expectations of Others"

Dear One,

Your heart holds the energy of your soul. It also holds the energy of your yearnings. These energies reside together because it is your yearnings which propel you along your path of soul growth.

Yearning can be interpreted as "victim" when your left brain tries to make sense of an emotion which is in your heart. Your left brain wants to categorize and then "fix" emotions that appear to indicate there is something lacking in your life. So...the emotion of "yearning" is interpreted as "lacking" which leads you into the "victim mode."

When your heart is yearning for loving behavior from another, and you feel in victim mode due to the behavior of this being, your left brain has created expectations. Expectations imply your desire to control the path of others. My dear, when you feel yourself as a victim, you are in your head, desiring control. You enter circular thinking ...where nothing is resolved.

You can return to your heart and send energy to this being. You can send the energy of love...imagine that now...send the energy of love to someone of whom you have been having expectations. What happens?

You feel the compassion for yourself and for that person, which brings your body into a state of peace. Now send expectation to that person...expectation for that person to behave in a specific way. How does it feel to you?

It brings tension to your body and mind.

How do you imagine it feels to that person? The person can feel, perhaps at a subconscious level, this energy of expectation from you.

When you transform your head's energy of expectation into your heart's energy of love...you move from dis-ease to ease...you heal yourself in that moment. You know in your heart that you only have control over yourself. You can only change yourself. Only you can heal yourself.

Imagine that you are in your heart in this moment...knowing that the feeling of yearning is the precursor to soul growth. Now ask your soul, "What is your message to me in this moment?" Then be still. Clear you mind. Remain in your heart.

Allow your soul's energy to speak to you from your heart. Listen to your heart. Words of wisdom bubble up and provide you with your Soul's Guidance. Allow yourself to write down what you hear, or feel, or "know" from your heart.

My dear, walk the path of understanding your heart's yearnings, using them to spark your soul growth. Walk the path of healing. Walk the Spiritual Path of Being.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.
~ Paularyo ~

(Note from Connie: To learn how to drop from your head to your heart,
read this message from Paularyo.)

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"Creating Peace in the Midst of Chaos"

Question to Paularyo:
It seems as if there's chaos all around me. I feel confused and seem to lose my way. Please help me to be peaceful in the midst of chaos.

Dear One,

You are allowing the energies of confusion and chaos to enter your energy bubble. This energy abounds in your culture - a culture filled with the need for control and greed. As your culture values

(1) control over other beings, and
(2) the "need" (greed) for more, the energy of chaos and confusion is created.

It is your life path to live in this culture, to be "a part" of this culture, yet "apart" from these values.

Be Spirit in this moment. Rise above, literally, your culture, your world. In this moment....imagine your bubble of energy - your energy field - be in your bubble - FEEL your bubble's energy - imagine now that you bubble is floating up - floating into the Oneness of Spirit.

As you float above, imagine that you can see with your Soul eyes - that you can comprehend with your Soul the energies of Truth.

As you observe your Mother Earth with your Soul eyes, you see as many Truths as you see Beings on the Earth. Notice the energy around each person. Notice the energy around your country. There abounds the belief that it is possible to control the path of other beings on Mother Earth. As your culture interferes and interrupts the flow of other culture's learnings, the energies of chaos, confusion, conflict, and concentrated effort fill your culture's energy space.

It is Your Path, as you rise above and observe the various Truths in your culture, to see these beings through the eye of your Soul, with the eye of Spirit, with compassion for the isolation these beings create for themselves and your country.

Yes, these individuals isolate themselves from their soul.

They forget, in their humanness, that they can only change themselves. When they attempt to control others, they create the energies of chaos, confusion, and conflict in the name of "peace."

My dear, allow yourself now to switch your focus and observe, with the eyes of your soul, the energy created by the souls on the Earth who are creating Peace...those who create peace in their souls...those who gift Mother Earth with the energy of peace...just as the soul of Mother Theresa did.

Look down now and notice the influence of these peace-full souls on your Earth's energy. See calm in the midst of chaos. See the influence of Spirit - as compared to the influence of chaos.

My dear, be One with the energy of Peace. Be Peace. Look down and see the beings who emanate Peace. Notice the ripples of Peace around these beings.

Now, imagine that your Spirit Self, your Soul Self, your bubble, floats back down to re-integrate with your Earth being. And, in this moment, BE Peace. Be in your heart...the earthly home of your soul. See with your heart. Imagine ripples of Peace generating out from you to those around you.

You cannot make others peaceful. You can offer them Peace. You can BE Peace in their presence. You can think Peace. You can act Peace. You can generate Peace. Just as your Sun generates warmth so that the plants are nourished, you generate Peace to nourish the Souls of those in your culture, on your Earth.

Allow this to be your Path.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"How can I trust Spirit?"

Question to Paularyo
When it comes to trusting Spirit, it's like trusting myself...my doubt surfaces. How can I trust Spirit?

Channeled Message from Paularyo

Dear One,

Doubting Spirit is part of the human search for truth...a truth you can depend on...a truth which will remain constant.

No human truths remain constant. Your truths evolve as your soul evolves. Allow it to be your truth in the moment.

Question to Paularyo
What can I do when I can't even find the truth of the moment? When I feel lost and alone?

Channeled Message from Paularyo
Oh my dear, you are doubting yourself and your purpose for being when you reach this level of doubt. In these moments you escape to your long-held stress response. That is, you escape to your head - it is where your culture has taught you the answers to solving your stress lie.

Your schools teach you to store scientific truths in your head and then use them to solve the mysteries of science. You followed their instructions, and received praise. You felt as if you knew something. You solved a problem using your head, and life was good. You began to believe that you can solve all of life's mysteries in your head.

This was your escape from the stress of school. You would go to your head, the home of the temporary truth.

As your scientists have begun to discover, there is more to your life, your world, your universe than can be explained in the 2 + 2 = 4 theory. Quantum physicists are opening their minds...discovering their intuition, and uncovering new "truths" daily. These new truths disprove the temporary truths of yesterday.

My dear, you learned to trust the truths of your childhood. One such truth: "When you are in stress and want to solve a problem, go to your head. All the answers are stored there."

As a child this was your truth. When a question was asked of you, you felt stressed. You went to your head and solved the problem. You were highly praised. You were happy. You were successful.

When you could not find the solution to the problem in your head, you felt a failure. You were un-happy...un-successful.

You developed a long-held habit, "When I am stressed, I can go to my head to find the solution. Then I will be happy. If I cannot find the solution there, I will be unhappy."

This was your temporary truth, my dear. The most important truths in your life are stored in your heart. But heart-truths were often not praised when you were a child, and did not bring the external gratification you sought. Today it is the truths of your heart that you seek. It is with these truths that you discover internal happiness...true, lasting happiness. Not the temporary lift of external validation...praise, a raise or promotion at work, a new home, new car, or new clothes...these are all temporary.

Some people are addicted to external sources of happiness. These people cannot receive enough. Whatever they get is a temporary fix...but they soon need more and are dissatisfied and tend to blame external sources such as people, places, or things for their unhappiness. They do not understand that they are enough. Are you enough?

If you go to your head for the answer, your thinking goes in circles. Circular thinking is your marker that you are in your head seeking an answer that lies in your heart.

The easiest way to return to your heart is with your energy bubble. Imagine a bubble of energy around you...it is your energy field...think ONLY of your bubble...allow your mind to clear...imagine your bubble expanding. Allow it to find it's most comfortable size...perhaps as large as the universe. BE in this energy for a few moments. FEEL this energy. FEEL your energy.

Then, open your third eye of compassion. Imagine you are with the important people in your life. Look with the eye of your Soul, with the eye of compassion at those around you.

You will recognize those who are in their head trying to solve a life mystery, and are thus in circular thinking, leading to pain. Have
compassion for them, and see a reflection of yourself.

Trust that Spirit will bring to your path the exact right people to reflect your own pain, your own truths. When you expand your bubble and open your third eye, you will recognize them.

As you have compassion for them, allow your Heart, the earthly home of your Soul, to have compassion for YOU...for that part of you who has been enculturated to believe:

There must be more,
External praise and/or material possessions bring me happiness,
The answers to life's challenges are in my head,
I will be happy when other people, places, and things line up perfectly for me,
True happiness is just beyond my reach, and
When (fill-in-the-blank) happens, I will finally be happy.

My dear, external sources of love, peace, and joy are temporary. Know that and know that you are enough in this moment. You are enough. All answers to life's stresses are temporary except for internal peace, love, and joy.

"How do I find internal peace, love, and joy?" you ask.

By allowing yourself to trust YOU. To know that the answers are in your heart. To develop new habits:

Instead of escaping to your head when you are in stress, be fully present to your life and in your heart. The truth will bubble up from your heart.

Allow it.

Instead of waiting for external validation, know that you are enough. Allow peace, love, and joy to emanate from your heart.

Allow yourself to know this truth: "There is only the moment. In this moment I have enough. I am enough."

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Help with Holiday Spirit"

Question to Paularyo:
In the midst of the holidays, I often feel hectic and "caught up" with other's expectations of me. What can I do to get into the holiday spirit?

Channeled Message from Paularyo:

Dear One,

Holiday Spirit is just that: Spirit.

Our question to you is...will you allow Spirit into your Holiday?

You have a choice my dear. You can spend your holiday in your head...or in your heart. When you go to your head, you enter either...

the pain of the past...and may want to avoid some people,

or

the fear of the future...and enter the hectic energy of frenzy...worrying what to give, what to wear, and how to make others happy.

My dear, when you choose to go shopping in your expanded bubble...in your heart (instead of your head), the perfect holiday gifts for friends and family find their way to you.

When you go shopping for your holiday clothes while in your heart, the perfect right clothes find you.

When you allow yourself to Be in your heart, the home of your soul, with your energy bubble as large as the universe, with your soul leading the way...you can choose to be 'lovingly detached' from people, and from how others perceive you.

You allow your soul to shine. You allow yourself to Be. You allow it to be Easy.

My dear, when you are lovingly detached, you fear not what others think of you. You fear not that you will fall short. Instead you are...

...in your heart.
...in your soul.
...in your bubble.
...in the peace of the present.

Allow yourself to fully BE in each moment.

See your family and friends with your third eye...with the Truth of Compassion.

Feel yourself in the light of Spirit...the Spirit of the Holidays.

My dear make the decision to

See with the eye of Spirit,

Speak with the voice of your soul, and

Allow Ease to be your Guide.

Allow the Spirit of the Holidays to sparkle in your eyes...the window to your soul.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Allow your heart to be reborn into your long-held dreams"

Question to Paularyo:
I'm having trouble coming up with a new year's resolution. Can you pls give me some help?

Channeled Message from Paularyo:

As you enter this 'New Year' (in your understanding of time,) allow your Self to begin as if anew. Allow your heart to be reborn into your long-held dreams.

My dear, imagine, if you will, that your life is a dream which your Soul creates so it may advance on its path of enlightenment. Imagine that your Body is simply a vehicle for your Soul's dream journey.

How would your new year be different?

Image that your Soul has made agreements with other Souls in your Core Soul Group to assist one another along your journeys of Soul growth.

How would your new year be different?

Image that each 'new year' is an opportunity to bring your Soul journey to your awareness. Allow your Soul to lead you into the 'new year' and your Self to know that you are simply a vessel for your Soul.

Be aware that all of the Beings in your Core Soul Group are learning as well. My dear, do not take any critical words or harsh actions personally. Those behaviors are simply an outward reflection of their inner pain.

Recognize this as an opportunity for you to recognize those parts of your Self. You, too, at times have been critical of others. You, too, have used hurtful words.

My dear, as others are behaving in these ways, they are serving as your reflection of your previous Self in times of pain. Recognize your previous Self.

Forgive your previous Self. In that moment, you also forgive the person who serves as a reflection of your previous Self. In that moment give gratitude to the Soul of this Being who serves as your reflection.

My dear, it is in the energy of gratitude for these Teachers in your Soul Group that you separate their human frailties from their True Self, their Soul Self.

And thus you separate your own human frailties, your past behaviors, from your True Self, your Soul Self. In that moment you are in your heart, in your Soul, and you lose the sense of linear time. You are one with all. You are one with your Soul.

How would your new year be different?

My dear, allow the 'new year' to remind you that your Soul does not recognize time as linear. Your Soul only sees time as circular...an upward spiral.

When another person reflects an aspect of your Self which you are healing, know that your Soul is simply recognizing your journey of the upward spiral. That is, you recognize an aspect of your Self that you are healing, so you may continue on your upward spiral of Soul growth towards enlightenment.

Use this human concept of a new year to be a time of reflection...to see your reflection in ALL behaviors (those perceived as positive as well as those perceived as negative) of those in your Core Soul Group. See a reflection of your past expressions of pains or fears.

My dear, above all, recognize when one in your Soul Group provides you with a reflection of your Soul's innate qualities...a reflection of your enhancing love, kindness, generous spirit, joy, compassion....

Allow your Self to recognize, focus, and reflect on the upward spiral. Recognize the reflection of the aspects of your Self which you are healing and your Soul which you are enhancing.

Most importantly, my dear, recognize and focus on the reflection of your innate and loving Soul qualities which you have come to this life to enhance. Return to your Soul Self. It is in this moment that you enter timelessness.

You enter ease. And you allow your life to be easy.

How would your new year be different?

Allow it to be easy, my dears. And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Denial - a Gift or a Curse?"

Question to Paularyo:
I'm having trouble staying on the Spiritual Path. What tools can you offer to help me be more consistent?

Channeled Message from Paularyo:

My dear, along your Path to Wholeness, you employ the gift of denial. Denial is both a strength and a curse. The strength in denial is the ability to fit into your culture's beliefs, mores, and behaviors.

When you deny your gifts and unique strengths, you become unseen...one of the many. You do not stand out. You are not...your greatest fear...perceived as standing above (better than) others.

To fit into your culture is the path of Childhood...to feel, to be seen, and accepted as a part of your family and culture. To easily fit into the flow is the Child's goal.

You have experienced suppressing parts of yourself so you could fit the mold of what others expected of you. This is the gift of acceptance. And the curse of hiding parts of yourself from your Self.

My dear, allow that phase of your life to be your Past, and enter your Present without secrets.

Go within to discover your Wholeness.

Wholeness implies Oneness. One with the Universe of Spirit. One with your eternal Soul. One with your unique gifts.
My dear, these gifts have been with you through all time.

Meditate upon your uniqueness. Allow it to flow from your subconscious to your conscious self...to your knowing.

Allow it to flow into each of your cells. Allow it to be one with you as you allow yourself to BE One with the Universe, with your gift, with your Soul, with All That Is.

Envision your life as a vessel of energy flow from the Universal Spirit, through your heart, to those along your Path. A vessel of love...of peace...of joy...of healing. A vessel of your unique gift...sharing your Be-ing with those who come upon your Path.

In your daily walk, imagine Spirit flowing into each one of your cells and through your heart to the world. As you allow this, you become a Messenger of Spirit.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Healing a Broken Heart"

Question to Paularyo:
I feel overwhelmed and confused all the time. I can't seem to find clarity.

Channeled Session with Paularyo:

PAULARYO: Good afternoon my dear. As we tap into your energy field we feel frustration with your social life, yes?

CLIENT: WOW! How did you know?

PAULARYO : We feel your emotions....we feel your disappointment.

CLIENT: Particularly with one gentleman.

PAULARYO: We feel that you had expectations that have not been met, and this brings disappointment....and sadness....and feeling stuck. This stuck feeling then becomes generalized to other parts of your life.

Your expectations of others is a huge lesson.

My dear, this sadness surrounding the loss of a dream is an old story with you. It happens to you again and again. Re-experiencing an old habit brings it to the surface for healing.

That is a good thing....yes? Although it is painful.

My dear, you are ready to heal. We know that about you.

CLIENT: Pain is to be expected. Geez, I want to get off this karmic wheel and overcome my difficulties in intimacy and partnership and hopefully to be successful with others.

PAULARYO: Yes, we understand. My dear, the lesson for you is around 'expectations of others.' There is that little girl, your inner child, who wants to be 'rescued.' She wants someone to take care of her.

You try to suppress this part of you, but she is still there. Your little girl is quite strong and wise. She is more than able to heal.
Where do you feel the energy of 'disappointment in others' in your body?

CLIENT: I need to release this huge pain in my neck and heart. Right now....I’m ready.

PAULARYO: Let's not release it....let's transform it. My dear, the energy served you....keep the energy....and transform it into an energy that serves you today.

Feel that pain in your neck and heart. Describe it to us.

CLIENT: It’s metal. It hurts.

PAULARYO : It is the pain of unmet needs. My dear, the pain tells us you brought it in to this life with you. It was a lesson you did not complete in a former lifetime, so you brought it in for healing.

That is why you chose the parents you chose. Humans learn best through opposites, so you chose parents who could/would not fulfill you needs....thus you would have the opportunity to learn how to fill your needs yourself.

My dear, thank you parents for serving you in this way. Have compassion for them. Lovingly detach from them.

CLIENT: Thank you Mom and Dad for allowing me to serve my karma and destiny through your love.

PAULARYO: Thank the pain for staying with you so that you will remember to heal it.

Then transform the metal to an energy that serves you today. What does it transform into?

CLIENT: It’s transformed to ‘holy water’ running through me. Paularyo, many times I have failed intimacy by virtue of controlling others with my authority.

PAULARYO: Yes, my dear, controlling others is your substitute for intimacy. When you control others, they are more likely to meet your needs.

CLIENT: This is about boundaries....developing, setting, and maintaining. My car is a junker. No love affair has turned sacred. I can’t get work or hold down a job that I’m passionate about. And so on.

PAULARYO: Have compassion especially for YOU and your little girl, your inner child. She feels helpless. She feels unfulfilled in love. She feels like a failure. She feels frustrated. BE in this moment compassionate for your little girl.

CLIENT: Why isn’t she healed????

PAULARYO: My dear, she did not receive compassion from your parents. She has been waiting for you to give her compassion. Only you can heal her. Only you can give her enough love, enough compassion, enough joy.

CLIENT: I can feel her. I envelope her with my love and open my heart. She comes home. That will make the difference; and people will notice. It doesn't matter what they think about me or how I am this way or that way.

PAULARYO: Precisely, it’s your heart that you want them to see. It’s your soul that you want them to know. It’s the you inside the body that is important.

My dear, you are the source of all the love you will ever need. You will not disappoint you. You will not leave you. You will always be there for you and for your little girl.

CLIENT: I am able to move forward! It has come to this day, finally, last loop.

PAULARYO: Allow the sacred water to flow through you. YOU did it, and only YOU can do it.

How does your neck and heart feel? Stay with it until it feels like flowing water. Stay with it. Let us know when your neck feels like water flowing.

CLIENT: It does....it's very, very, very smooth. It is running through my left-hand fingers.

PAULARYO: This is a healing moment for you. You can return to this moment at any time. Allow it to be easy. Allow your shoulders to be soft, your thinking to be soft.

CLIENT: I need set a time daily, to practice resurrecting my boundaries....protecting my little girl hugging her, loving her.

PAULARYO: My dear, please say instead, 'I want set a time daily to heal.' If you NEED to do it, then you are trying to control yourself. If you WANT to do it, your thoughts are soft.

You are leaving 'control' behind and entering 'allow.' Do you feel the difference?

CLIENT: Oh I want to! Do I have permission to love another intimately, and be in unconditional love and radiate this love to others? There is so much stuff going thru my head. Why is my head so busy?

PAULARYO: It was how you survived your childhood.

CLIENT: I want to trust myself but I seem to mess up every time.

PAULARYO: It is your habit. It doesn't serve you to do that any longer. It was useful when you were a child, now it is not serving you. When you are in your head, you are in criticism.

CLIENT: Yes, I am.

PAULARYO: When you are in your head, no matter what you do, it will not be good enough. When you are in your heart, you are in your soul, and you have compassion for yourself. You have love for yourself and patience with yourself.

So, no matter what happens, you understand that it is part of your journey.

Everyone has a journey, and everyone is on a healing path. Part of the healing path is pain. You have a choice of suffering the pain or experiencing the pain and allowing it to be your Teacher.

When you are in your head, you suffer. When you are in your heart, you experience, you learn, you grown, you heal. It is your choice. If you stay with your old habit, it is hard. If you are in your heart, you allow ease. It is YOUR choice. Yes my dear?

CLIENT: Yes it is.

PAULARYO: What do you choose? Head or heart? Criticism or compassion?

CLIENT: I choose healing from this pattern of being judgmental when I am feeling helpless. I choose to help myself by following my heart.

Even if the interaction between me and someone else hurts, I choose to be soulful, sensitive, and responsive to my needs.

PAULARYO: That’s a perfect description – soulful. When you are soulful you cannot judge…you cannot criticize...you have compassion...and patience...and a deep understanding that this is a part of your path. It happened for a reason.

Be lovingly detached from the outcome...be in the moment. Learn from the moment. When you worry about the future, you go back to your head and into fear. That does not serve you.

CLIENT: Are the karmic ties cleared regarding the past life?

PAULARYO: They are cleared when you run the sacred water. It is a process, not an event. A process over which YOU have control.

Each time you choose to heal, you heal a little deeper. Give yourself the gift of time and patience. Each day, spend time running the sacred waters through your body.

You can do it while you are driving. You can do it as you fall asleep at night. It is a healing process. Allow it to be easy.

My dear, know that you are strong. Know that your little girl does not NEED anyone, she WANTS someone to share her life with.

As you are in your soulfulness, you will attract to yourself another strong soul. When you are in your soulfulness, only then will you attract the partner you want.

When you are in your learned helplessness, in your head, in criticism...you will attract a partner who does not fit you.

You have the choice...choose courage, and strength, and love, and compassion, and wisdom......choose to BE your soul self....then, and only then, will you heal.

My dear, this transformation process goes at the pace that you set. If you spend a little time each day transforming the energies, it will be as a snail. If you spend lots of time, it goes quickly.

You need not stop your life to do this. You can BE in your soul at ANY time...when you are speaking with someone...when you are in the shower...when you are driving.

You do not need to take time out of your day to heal. Just allow yourself to do it. Live your life in your soul, not your head. Choose to heal. Choose to allow it to be easy.

Choose to understand that your past is all a part of your learning path. The pain of your past was necessary in order for you to enhance your compassion for those who are in pain. If you never experienced pain, you would not have compassion for others.

So, see your past pain just as part of your path...nothing more. Then transform your pain to peace...moment to moment...until one day you are spending every moment in this peace.

CLIENT: A soulful waterfall.

PAULARYO: Yes! A soulful waterfall! You can bring it with you wherever you go. You can do it in THIS moment...in EVERY moment. Allow it to be easy my dear.

Just do it...don't worry about time...there is always time...there is nothing but time...time is only this moment. If you are flowing the sacred waterfall in this moment, that is all there is...moment by moment. Live in the peace of the present.

CLIENT: WOW! What a nice symbol...this sacred waterfall.

PAULARYO: A nice symbol for whatever and whenever you are ready to heal. Imagine this sacred waterfall going with you wherever you go...to the grocery store...to the gas station.

FEEL it...F_E_E_L it...that is the key which unlocks the truth of energy. Feeling it creates it…makes it real. When you feel yourself in your head, spinning, just get under that waterfall and return to your heart, your soul.

My dear, what have you learned today?

CLIENT: I have learned to lighten up; to be in my little girl’s heart when I am feeling hurt, embarrassed or helpless, and allow my vulnerability to emerge into warrior strength and compassion....use all the tools of transformation.

PAULARYO: Yes my dear! What a pleasure to be with you today. Blessings to you and to your little girl. Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Tools for Parents and Grandparents"

Question to Paularyo: I have 3 questions:

(1) My son has been ''ill'' with a weird stomach bug for going on 4 weeks.
(2) As a mother, how do I separate my issues from my own mother and grandmother's issues by raising my son independent of their values/beliefs?
(3) Time permitting, any adjustments for my lower back/sacrum--I'd appreciate it. I want clarity and healing here.

Channeled Session with Paularyo:

PAULARYO: Good afternoon my dear! As we tap into your energy field we find fear.... fear that you may discover YOU are responsible for your son's "illness." Yes?

CLIENT: Yes.

P: So, let us deal first with this fear. My dear, fear does not serve you. Do you understand? Fear that you are having a 'negative' influence on your son does not serve you, nor does it serve him.

Where do you find this fear in your body?

C: In my private area. Damn. I feel shame.

P: Oh my dear, please do not damn yourself.

C: OK. Let me get out of my ego.

P: Give this fear an image. What does it look like?

C: Galleon wooden boat, worn with holes as if someone punched it with vicious power.

P: My dear, when your son passed through the birth channel, you were afraid he would be aware of your guilt. Yes?

C: Yes. True.

P: Be compassionate with yourself for a moment. Be compassionate for the fear. Be compassionate for the guilt.

C: Now I see myself as a first grader.

P: My dear, in the first grade you felt guilty.

C: Yes, I felt guilty for being slow. I was a sorry case…a burden on my family’s shoulders. A disadvantage to them…guilt...the condemned outcast. And now my son feels it big time…WOW!

P: My dear, you felt responsible for your family…for what you perceived as their disappointment in you…their grief. You felt the need to take care of them.

Was it your fault you were "slow"?

C: No, I know now that it wasn't my fault.

P: You and your son are closely linked...emotionally. So, your concern now is that he picks up on your fear, your guilt, your shame. And because you fear that he will, it becomes real.

My dear, let us look at this fear of yours once more. When you were a child, you decided NOT to have your own children…out of fear that you would pass your 'slowness' on. That is why it is in your private area…the area of the birth canal.

C: WOW, that’s shocking! That’s why I couldn’t have children for a long time. Finally I was able to have a son.

P: It is related to your fear of having children. Your fear of passing on your 'slowness'…your fear of not being able to protect your child from emotional pain…just as you felt unprotected as a child.

C: Rats!

P: My dear, please replace your response of “rats!” with the response of “ahhhh...clarity.... ahhhh.”

As a child you were afraid to have children and you could not have kids until you healed that fear. So you did some inner healing…and then you were able to have a child, yes?

C: Yes. Now I understand.

P: Yet, at a subconscious level, you still feared passing along your own fears, your own pain, your shame, your “slowness”…and THOSE fears are still in your birth canal. Now it is time to heal those fears, yes?

C: YES YES YES YES YES

P: All right my dear.... see the symbol of your fears, the boat with holes, in the birth canal. My dear, it kept you afloat. Although there were holes (“slowness”), you still stayed afloat. You survived.

C: Yes!

P: This energy is causing your lower back pain. Thank it for serving you…for keeping you afloat…and ask it to transform into an energy that serves you today. What does it become?

C: I'm remembering water experiences...riding speedboats for the joy of it.

P: (laughing) So it transforms from a wooden boat with holes into a speedboat! How delightful! Ask the speedboat what it represents.

C: It's my light body, with a sail!

P: A speedboat with a sail! How unique! The ‘speed’ represents your path of healing – quickly.

The sail represents allowing yourself to be carried by the winds of Spirit…to allow yourself to go where it wills you to go…to heal…to allow it to be easy…to sail into your future with faith instead of fear.

C: And my son sails with me.

P: Yes, your son sails with you. As you envision him sailing with you, tell us of his face. What is his expression?

C: Curiosity, wonder, love, entertainment, joy.

P: He has faith that he is on the right boat. My dear, as you transform your fear into this faith, how will that influence your relationship with your son in this life?

C: Balance…as he grows, I grow.

P My dear, envision that you both grow independently.

C: He’s an only child and I'm concerned about that.

P: Allow yourself to see him in his own boat now. What do you see?

C: He’s spoiled but he's very reasonable about himself. I see that he's able to use salvaged goods. He develops himself into a captain…a leader.

P: We see your boats tethered for now. He has his own unique way…when he is ready to be independent you will allow him to sail his own separate path...yet you will remain attached spiritually, yes?

C: Yes.

P: Now, my dear, let us return to your original question. Let us now speak of his stomach bug. Give us a moment...we will go to him. Please give us his full name, age, and location.

C: (She give Paularyo her son’s name and location. His age is 10.)

P: My dear, we find a young man with an expansive view of the world.... he has more than a 180 degree view.... he is very open... very bright...very attuned to his environment…very sensitive. We will ask him about his stomach...just a moment please.

He tells us that it is his way of helping YOU to feel better as a mom. You feel better when you can DO something for him.

C: True.

P: This is his subconscious thought, not conscious.

C: How can that be healed? Helped?

P: My dear, it is time for him to learn that he is NOT to take care of YOU.

My dear, we want you to speak to his subconscious right now. Tell his subconscious that he is NOT to take care of you… that you will take care of yourself. And as you do that, you will model for him how to take care of himself.

C: Yes, yes, yes…

P: Speak from your mind to his subconscious. How does he respond? We hear relief… his stomach relaxes…he breathes more deeply…his energy bubble expands…his mind clears.

Envision it for yourself at the same time…clear mind…large energy bubble. And feel your heart connection with his. It is so very strong my dear. You can communicate subconsciously. He can hear you…you can hear him.

C: Yes. It's as if there's love in the air…harmony.

P: As you do this, my dear, how do YOU feel?

C: I understand the reality of possibilities…I can heal…I feel much better!

P: Now, put the speedboat with a sail into your private area...how does it feel? How does that help your back?

C: It rocks …the bottom of the boat rocks…ouch!

P: Love your speedboat…love your birth canal…heal it…sooth it…have compassion for it…be excited about …it is a speed boat representing quick healing…it has a sail representing you flowing with the winds of Spirit.

Create a healing moment for yourself. Heal yourself in this moment.

C: I can’t balance my left hip.

P: Let us stay with your hip for a few moments…feel your hip. My dear, we hear your hip saying....”Stay with this healing energy for awhile… take TIME to heal…allow the speed/sail boat to heal you…one moment at a time.”

C: My sailing speedboat healing creates kundalini rising.

P: Allow yourself to heal. Allow it to be easy.

C: I need to heal my guilt of not LISTENING to my body …myself.

P: No guilt allowed! (laughing)

C: Yes… true. OK, I’m with my hip. I feel very, very strong in my boat. I know exactly what it needs. It tells me to lay down and rest. And to set boundaries…in a good way.

P: Good! My dear, as you listen to your hip, what happens to it?

C: Healing is happening. Oh geez.

P: Yes! Everyone wants to be heard. Every energy wants to be heard. When you skip past hearing…you skip past healing.

C: I want to talk now…to everyone on my path. Mostly those closest to me.

P: Have you talked to you hip?

C: Not really.

P: My dear, thank your hip… love it…have compassion for it…spend some TIME with it. When you give your hip the gift of time, this is a precious gift.

My dear, you wanted your parents to give you the gift listening to you… the gift of time with you. You did not get it. Now...give it to yourself. Listen to your hip.

C: The gift of time with me, from me, for myself...listen to my hip, my body, my heart. My life.

P: Yes, yes, yes, yes. You are your own best healer.

C: Yes, I am. That’s the raw truth. When I do this...I can teach my son to self-heal. Heal me first…start with me.

P: Yes, and you model self-healing for your son. Modeling is the best method of teaching. The 2nd best is story telling. When you tell your son bedtime stories, create stories about self-healing.

C: How can I develop story-telling skills when my parents had none? I have failed at that, too.

P: My dear, allow yourself to listen to your Self…to your heart…to your soul.

C: I’ve gotta try.

P: Oh my dear, please don't “try”...that is left-brain effort…just do it. Allow it to be easy…that is right-brain ease. Allow the energy to flow through you. It is not work. It is fun! It is the speedboat with a sail!

You may want to draw a picture of a speedboat with a sail. It will remind you to go with the flow…to allow Spirit to guide you…to go in faith…to allow ease.

C: It’s like I found a chest of gold in the sea…with a remedy kit. It’s easy and smooth sailing. Slow, and then fast, mostly fast!

P: Imagine yourself allowing a story to sail through you to your son tonight. How does it feel?

C: It feels awesome! I can create it from this session. It’s awesome!

P: It is easy, yes?

CLIENT: Yes!

P: My dear, you can allow a new story to flow through you. Whatever comes through, trust it. It is as if you are channeling a story from his guides to him. The story will create itself. Don’t think about it beforehand. That is your left-brain trying to control.

Just allow it to flow in the moment. That is your heart and your right-brain flowing with ease…with faith…with love…with joy…with healing. Yes?

C: Why not? There’s nothing to lose and everything to gain!

P: All right my dear, you have the answers to your 3 questions, yes?

C: Just gotta make the time to balance myself.

P: Do you "want" to do it?

C: Yes, yes.

P: Then you will. If you "gotta" do it, you will not. Listen to yourself my dear.

C: I want to heal myself, every day.

P: Allow this to become a part of you. Allow it to be easy. You have all the TIME you create for yourself. No hurry. The speedboat goes further when you allow it to be easy.

C: Thank you for the session. Wowowowow..........awesome!

P: My dear, it has been our honor and our pleasure to be with you. Blessings to you and to your son. Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"How to Be a Vessel for Spirit"

Question to Paularyo:
I feel frustrated with my life. It's as if I try to nudge the universe in the direction I think it should go.

Channeled Message from Paularyo:

Dear One,

Your tendency to fret keeps you in your head instead of your heart. How can we help you when you want to control the universe from your head?

We are here. Our mission is to speak through you. Allow it along your daily path.

Surrender to Spirit.

Surrender your Ego to Spirit.
Surrender your Will to Spirit.

Surrender your Identity to Spirit.
Be a Vessel for Spirit.

Allow it my dear. We understand your fear. You believe you've had to make your own way. And now we ask you to transform your habit, your tendency, and trust us to lead you and to bring to you what is for everyone's best and highest good.

My dear, become the Vessel that you already are.

Yes, use your brain. AND allow yourself to BE a Vessel for Spirit. Walk your Path as a Vessel.

How?

Allow your bubble to be as large as the universe. Allow your heart to lead you. Allow your energy to attract to you the full abundance of Spirit. FEEL it. Allow it.

As you look at your past --- you attract to you people, places, and events that were life-transforming when you least expected it. Yes?

This is the Path of Spirit. To bring to you what is for everyone's best and highest good when you are ready.

When are you ready? When you surrender. When you STOP TRYING SO HARD!

So, my dear, STOP TRYING SO HARD and allow us to bring to you the people, places, and events that transform your life.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"You Are Created by Spirit"

You are created by Spirit.
Allow Spirit to create through you.

Allow Spirit to flow
unchecked throughout your life.

Allow the flow to take you
into uncharted territories.

Go in Faith. Go in Trust.
Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

Know not what the future holds.
Know that it is filled with jewels.

Jewels that create a treasure.
You are the treasure.

The jewels are your innate gifts.
Know not what they are.

Allow them to find you.

Flow forward in Faith with
an open heart,
a clear mind, and
a soul which is Questing Spirit.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Healing the Internal Workaholic"

Question to Paularyo:
I'm a workaholic. Please give me some insight and guidance.

Channeled Message from Paularyo:

Dear One,

Notice your words: "I am." Your internal dialogue maintains your belief system. You sub-conscious internal dialogue controls your self-concept which in turn controls your behavior. If you want to change your behavior, first pay attention to your words - which reflect your thoughts.

My dear, in this moment we request two things of you. One now. One on-going.

(1) On-going. My dear, simply notice your choice of words. Yes, my dear, they are a choice born of a decision made at one point in your life. Notice your choices and decide to re-choose when it serves you.

(2) In this moment, notice that you chose to state: "I am a workaholic." My dear, when and why did you make that choice?

I always had to work more than others in order to keep up with them.

Is that still true for you today?

I believe it is.

Then it is so. Imagine for a moment, my dear, that you allowed your Self to believe that you no longer need to "keep up."

Imagine that now your goal is to "open up." That is, to open up to your Soul, to your Spiritual Path, to your Life Purpose.

Does this require you to do more than others?

No.

How would your life look differently if you allowed this to be your priority?

It would be filled with more meditation and journaling and playing. Less work.

Image it for a moment. Get the picture in your head. Now FEEL the difference. How does it feel?

Like a relief!

Do you trust that your work will get done?

Yes...more easily.

Then, my dear, allow it to be so. Allow your conscious Self to make the choice. Your Spiritual Growth, your Self-Actualization is your priority. Your "work" then simply falls into place.

It is a choice my dear. Simply a choice. Choose Spirit.

Allow it to be easy...and it is so.

~ Paularyo ~

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"Your Country's Soul"

Question to Paularyo:
"How can I move forward toward enlightenment, when this country does not value enlightenment?"

Response from Paularyo:

Dear One,

A country develops a personality, just as a being develops a personality. The personality is simply a facade. It is temporary and changeable.

It shows itself differently when it is in fear than when it feels safe and secure.

To discover the soul of your country, allow your Self to go back in history and imagine that you're a founding member of your country.

Your imagination is the doorway to your subconscious. It is one of the gifts from Spirit. Your subconscious houses the truths of your soul. It speaks to you often in metaphors or stories, as there is no language which can capture the knowings of your soul.

Do it now. Imagine that you are a founding member of your country. Do that right now.

Look around the room at the other Founding Members. Be in your soul as your eyes scan the room.

What are the values of these